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Metal Rules

Posted: May 12, 2012 in Random
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You’re familiar with the Golden Rule, right? Treat others the way you expect to be treated.  Well, I was thinking of a complementary rule that would say, Treat yourself the way you expect to be treated. Basically, if the Golden Rule guides your actions towards others, this rule would guide the way you act towards yourself.  If you expect others to give you respect, then respect yourself. Thinking along those lines.

I thought that maybe this new rule could be the Platinum Rule or something, but then I did some searching online and found that not only is Platinum taken, but so are other metals.  Here’s what I found.

  • Golden Rule – One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself.
  • Silver Rule – One should not treat others in ways that one would not like to be treated. (Basically the converse of the Golden Rule.)
  • Platinum Rule – Treat others in the way they like to be treated.
  • Bronze Rule – Do unto others as they have done unto you. (revenge)
  • Copper Rule – Do unto others as you expect they’ll do unto you. (suspicion/paranoia)
  • Iron Rule – Do unto others before they do unto you. (malice)
  • There is also a Brass Rule, but I can’t figure out exactly what it means.
  • Titanium Rule – Do unto others, keeping their preferences in mind.
  • Steel Rule – Do unto others as they have done unto you in the past. (seems similar to the Bronze Rule.)
  • Hot Potato Rule – Do unto the next person what the last person did unto you. (This sounds like parents that abuse their children because they were abused by their parents.)
  • Diamond Rule – Treat others as you believe they would want you to treat them, if they knew everything that you did. (This sounds like what parents attempt to do for their children.)

Other than the Golden Rule, I’m not sure how solid or even well-known these others are.  But since so many other metals are already taken, I think I’ll dub my rule the Tungsten Rule.  If you read a little bit about Tungsten, you’ll learn that it is a very tough metal with a high melting point and high density.  I think this fits because if you get yourself in the right place first, then it can be a strong foundation for how you treat others and the quality of your relationships.  I think if you respect yourself, then others will see that and will also respect you.  If you want to be loved, then love yourself first. Don’t wait for someone to have pity on you.

So here it is:

  • Tungsten Rule – Treat yourself the way you would like for others to treat you.


Further reading:

This could be my new job. Writing down things that annoy me could become my new obsession. I’m kidding (sort of).

Both of these have one thing in common, tho. They relate to people that have recently had breakups. Here are my observations.

  1. Being single and choosing to be single are not the same.  Today a friend on Facebook talked about why she had “chosen to be single.” Don’t get me wrong, she gave good reasons.  My problem is that 9 minutes, that’s right only 9 minutes later she says, okay I’m single, where’s my soul mate. I don’t feel like this is choosing to be single. I think this is simply being single. Choosing to be single means that you’re not looking for a soul mate. You’re not looking for any relationship whatsoever because you are happy and  have decided you don’t need another person to feel complete.  If you are of the mind set that you still want (or “need”) to find another person to be complete, then you have not chose to be single. You simply are single. (See my treatise on being single in a previous post.)
  2. After you break up, you’re the greatest person in the whole wide world.  At least according to your friends. “He’s the one that’s missing out.” “It’s his loss.” “She doesn’t know what she’s missing.” “You deserve better.” All of this amazes me. People are so quick to lift this person up, have they considered that it could be their fault after all.  I mean, when a relationship falls apart, someone as fault.  Usually, both parties share some blame even tho one will generally share more than the other.  I just find it amusing that people can’t think of anything more comforting to say than to put the person on a pedestal. Usually, it’s guys probably hoping to get in sad girl’s pants. defines boredom as “the state of being bored;  tedium; ennui.”  When I saw this definition, I thought to myself, “what is the point of this definition?”

Wikipedia, on the other hand, defines boredom as “an emotional state experienced when an individual is left without anything in particular to do, and is not interested in their surroundings.” After reading this, I thought to myself, “thank you for being more useful than, Wikipedia.”

It’s common to hear someone say, “I’m bored. There’s nothing to do.” Well, my thought is that the second statement is false. You simply don’t like any of your options. It’s like when someone says, “There are 500 channels, but nothing’s on.” What they really mean is, “There are 500 channels, but nothing’s on that I want to watch right now.” There’s plenty on TV. There’s plenty of things to do in general.  It’s just whether or not you like your options.

I find that I’m “bored” when I have to do one thing but I’d rather do just about anything else.  Or perhaps what I want to do costs more money than I’d rather spend. I think that money is a big source of boredom. If you can’t afford to do options A, B, or C, and you’re left with options D thru Z but don’t care for any of those, then you’re bored.

Realizing this has set me free. Whenever I start to think, “I’m bored,” I look at what my options are.  If I have something that I absolutely must do, then I power thru it. If all of my options are optional, then I make myself pick something.  Once I actually take that first step and make a choice, I’m at least doing something as opposed to sitting around complaining about being bored. Maybe what I end up doing wouldn’t be my first choice if circumstances were ideal, but it’s still something that I can enjoy. It’s just a matter of taking that first step.