The lowest common denominator of friendship

Posted: August 4, 2012 in Random

Why are we friends? Chances are it’s because we have something in common. That could be a place, an experience, or an interest.  Whenever you meet two people that have been friends for a very long time, what do you ask? “Hey, how did you guys meet?” That’s because there’s usually a place that you both met at or experience that you both shared, whether or not that was as the result of a common interest.

One of the friends that I’ve had for the longest time and still see on a regular basis doesn’t really have all that much in common with me. We have shared some life experience, tho, and we used to go to the same church, which is how we met. Even though neither of us go to church anymore, we’ve remained friends over the years. Sometimes I question why since we don’t have that much that we agree on, but we enjoy each others company enough.

It’s nice that being thrown into a common environment like work, school, or church can result in making friends. However, just because friends usually have something in common does not mean that having something in common automatically makes you friends.  I think people at work make that mistake. Sure, I’ve made friends at work. But on the other hand, you have to be nice to get along with your coworkers. I doubt that we’d hang out or even speak to one another if we didn’t work together. I think it’s something worth keeping in perspective. It’s fine to be acquaintances.  Just don’t automatically assume friendship.

I also think that once a friendship has taken root, you can meet up with a friend years later and talk as if you’ve known each other all along.  I did that tonite with a friend that I hadn’t seen in almost 12 years. We’ve both changed and moved on with our lives, but we can still talk about the times we shared and enjoy each others’ company as if we saw one another yesterday.

How does that make you feel?

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