Phony Conversation

Posted: September 16, 2012 in Random
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That pretty much sums up the way I feel. I don’t really enjoy talking on the phone. I’m not much for chit-chat. Talking in person is fine. Texting is fine. Email is fine. Message me via Facebook or some instant messenger, fine. But whatever you do, don’t call me. Don’t pressure me into a conversation that I’m not prepared to have. And if what you have to say lasts less than 15 seconds, don’t waste my time by pretending to be conversational when you really just needed to relay some info.

There’s also a sensory factor. In the same way that I can’t just sit around and listen to the radio, it’s difficult for me to be tied up in conversation on the phone and not do something else at the same time. Because if I try to multitask, I end up having to ask the other person to repeat themselves. It’s hard for me to stay focused either way, tho, because my eyes aren’t doing anything and I end up searching for something to look at. It’s a struggle for me to keep my mind from wandering since only my hearing is engaged. (Oddly enough, having music in the background helps me focus when I’m reading, so the sensory thing works both ways.)

I remember one time when I was in high school a friend called me. After I answered the phone, I asked my friend what she needed. She replied that she didn’t need anything. She was just calling to talk. I don’t really recall anyone in my family staying on the phone for long periods of time when I was growing up (my sister is younger than me by 7 years and my brother is 9 years younger), so I was under the impression that calling someone had to have some sort of purpose, some ultimate goal.

I definitely understand that some things are too complicated or too lengthy to type out. I’ll allow that. Most of the time, tho, my conversations consist of coordinating plans, and that is better in text form as far as I’m concerned. If for no other reason, it allows me to refer back to the text if I need to refresh my memory. It also helps if I’m somewhere that is loud or where I can’t carry on a conversation at the moment (e.g., the bathroom).

Fortunately, technology has come along once again and provided an alternate solution. My sister introduced me to Voxer. In this app, you can send voice messages (sorta walkie-talkie/PTT), text messages, and picture messages… all in one app!  You can also add other people for a group conversation. Now, if only I could get more of my friends to use it.

How does that make you feel?

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