Archive for August, 2013

Danny DeVito & Kevin Spacey from The Big Kahuna

The other night my friend and I re-watched The Big Kahuna. During the end credits, the song “Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen)” by Baz Luhrmann played. I blame these wisdom-filled creations for my recent inner dialogue.  In that same spirit, here’s some advice that I’ll pass on to you. Take what you will.

  • Be honest with yourself. – Stop saying you need when you really want. Stop saying never when you really mean most of the time. Admit to yourself that you’re fat or no good at something. Being honest with yourself can take away the power that other people or objects have over you.
  • Honesty is not always the best policy. – Sometimes honesty can be refreshing, but many times it simply lacks tact. Does it need to be said? Is omission lying in every circumstance? Is lying bad in every circumstance?
  • Live by yourself at least once. – Learn to be independent, to be your own person. Establish your identity outside of others. Learn who you are, and be able to take care of yourself with no one else to depend on. That will help you survive whether you choose to be in a relationship or find yourself between relationships.
  • Take care of your body. – Have fun, but allow yourself time to recover. Know your limits.
  • Don’t let other people, or the lack thereof, hold you back. – Life is short. Do the things you want to do even if you end up doing them alone.
  • Find ways to amuse yourself that no one else knows about.
  • Accept that some things are important to you and no one else.
  • Don’t try to please everyone.
  • You have the right to say “No.”
  • Imagine being rich. – Make a list of all of the things you would do if you had unlimited money and unlimited time (due to not having to work). Now, review your list to see how many of those things you could actually do with limited resources.
  • Realize that it is easier to be content than “happy.”
  • Occasionally stare at yourself in the mirror to remind yourself of who you are. – Look at yourself in the mirror when you’re not brushing your teeth or combing your hair. Just look into your own eyes.
  • Mature in your use of technology/social media. – In 2008, I took over 100 pictures at a music festival. In 2013, I took less than 10 pictures at the same music festival. Capture the moment but don’t overdo it.  Come to realize when you’re oversharing.  Flooding people with stuff is not the way to get people to pay attention; it causes them to tune out.
  • Don’t feel like you always have to put in the last word. – Especially with online conversations, when it’s time for the conversation to end, let it end. Not every statement needs a reply.
  • Strive to be more creative in your responses than LOL or cool.
  • Be aware of yourself. – Do you always fall back on a particular word? (I have a coworker that frequently uses “interesting” for everything, even when it isn’t that interesting.) Do you have a repetitious habit? Don’t be self-conscious, but do be self-aware. Don’t wait for someone else to point out your flaws because many times they won’t for fear of seeming rude and hurting your feelings.
  • Recognize that it is only an opinion. – There is no good or bad music. There are no good or bad movies. There is what you like and what you don’t like. These are simply value judgements. Someone probably thinks that the music you listen to is “bad” also.
  • Wait until exactly what you want is available instead of getting stuck with something that’s almost what you want because you thought you needed it right now.
  • Don’t rush.
  • Let people be who they are.  – Don’t force them to change just because their behavior doesn’t always please you. You wouldn’t want someone forcing their idea of who you should be on you. If everyone was the same and liked the same things, then life would be boring.
  • Stop trying so hard to fit in.
  • Travel.
  • Become a regular somewhere. – It’s nice to have a place outside your home that’s almost as comfortable as home. It’s comforting to regularly visit a place where people recognize you and are happy to see you.
  • Be a good tipper.
  • Try to view your thoughts and actions from the perspective of others.
  • Share your thoughts. – You never know what might be helpful to someone or what might be pertinent to what they are struggling with in life.