Sorry Not Sorry

Posted: February 15, 2015 in Random
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Image courtesy of bigjom at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Image courtesy of bigjom at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Some people like to be snarky and make a comment with the qualifier or hashtag #sorrynotsorry.  But really, aren’t these people more honest than some people simply saying, “I’m sorry.”  Sometimes, people aren’t even sorry.  They just say it to get you off their back or because they don’t know what else to say.  They say it so that they can turn around and ask a favor. Or sometimes they say it to offer an excuse.

Back in my Bible studying days I learned that the word “apology” comes from a Greek word meaning to deliver a defense.  That means that whether they know it or not, the person whose “I’m sorry” comes with an excuse is actually (and probably ignorantly) acting upon the very old definition. They’re really more interested in defending their actions than understanding how they impacted you.

Every once in a while, someone will express sincere regret. They won’t say, “I”m sorry. What else do you want me to say?”  They’ll understand that you need their empathy. Be sure to thank that person.  It may seem odd to thank someone after they’ve said, “I’m sorry,” but in the rare instances that someone actually gets it right, be grateful.

How does that make you feel?

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